Great marriages are built upon trust, mutual affection, and the genuine love of being together. You and your significant other might share all of those things, only there’s that one thing you love to do but she (or he, we won’t get sexist here) absolutely refuses to join you in. It’s your SCUBA obsession. Whether it’s plain old fear or something more mundane like disinterest stopping them, there seems to be no way for you to broach the subject of doing tandem dives anytime in the near or distant future. However, you know that SCUBA is an experience of a lifetime, and those who haven’t tried it are missing out. You know this, and you desperately want to convince your significant other. Don’t go it alone. Here are a few tips on how to get that reluctant spouse to dive with you.
There’s a great chapter in The Adventures of Tom Sawyer where Tom gets his friends to whitewash a fence by pretending that doing so is the greatest thing since sliced bread. His act is so convincing that kids even give him presents for honoring them with the privilege of painting the fence he was supposed to paint. Think of your job like this, only with SCUBA, you don’t have to lie. Show your spouse just how happy and relaxed you are after a dive. Show them how stress-free you are because you have just been in the serenity and quietude that being underwater can only give. We humans are a funny species. We learn by watching others, and we feel left out when others are doing something fun.
Tell them all the great things about SCUBA if they refuse to get the hint by you showing them. Tell them about the health aspects of SCUBA, and how the benefits for both mind and body are like no other activity. Tell them about the amazing social aspect of diving, and how many active groups are out there all over the world, enabling you to meet some of the most interesting people. Let them know about all the cool gear you get to own, and how much prestige diving gives you with other people (SCUBA divers are cool!).
The best way to get someone to not do something is to push them when they are not ready. Encourage them, sure. But don’t be forceful. Talk to them about getting with a trusted instructor that will take you both on some easy beginner dives or even go on a fun dive vacation where the waters are warm and you can do some snorkeling. Diving scares many people because they cannot see past a certain point and the unknown underwater can be daunting. In that case, never try to force someone to dive when they’re not interested. If they’re not comfortable with it, they’re not comfortable with it. Some people are just not at ease with the deep, and that’s fine. Give your spouse some time. He or she might just come around.
If all else fails, find a young, attractive diver. Introduce them to your spouse and say this is your new dive buddy. You’ll be amazed how well that works!
Sources: justgottadive.com | bookyourdive.com | scubaboard